It is excessively
Von bbqfan, 06:08It is excessively apt to present the psychology of feeling self-humiliation that the psychology is defended
Generally speaking, everybody has certain psychology to defend, or call guarding the psychology, this is normal. Ancestor say " heart that cause people can't have, prevent heart of people from have " This reason that that is to say. Certainly, in order to make oneself establish in an unassailable position in the fierce market competition, everybody is not only needing study and arms, but also the environment that is improving around constantly and interpersonal relationships constantly. But in actual life, we often see another kind of people, they distrust the person around from the start, in order to prevent one's own personal secrets, dignity and interests from being infringed, often adopt the means to excessively defend, thus wrapped up in oneself. In order to reach the psychology balanced, or adopt some improper tactics to slander others, thus achieve the goal of protecting oneself. This kind throw get others one's own discontent, until " whether I hate oneself " Shift " Others dislike me " ,Get to the end " Others really dislike me " ,This is psychology to defend an excessive intact course.
There is psychology that defends the excessive person, the great majority come from a kind of psychology of feeling self-humiliation, it is distrust of one kind, and then demonstrate the distrust of others, its basic reason or the understanding that it is enough to lack by oneself or mode of thinking has mistakes. Psychological research shows: The more every autognosis is close with one's own actual conditions, the fewer self- defence behaviors that he displays are, the stronger social adaptive capacity is, quite different on the contrary. One can know oneself, accept oneself, the relative psychology of feeling self-humiliation will be soon a little weaker.
Prevent the psychology from being defended excessively: Should treat one's own advantage and disadvantage, the correct relation of handling the successes and failures objectively at first; Confident to oneself, this kind of confidence has been already based on the fact that individual is struggling constantly, the help of winning among the comrade at the same time and relative, this is essential, the loner's method is absolutely impractical. The competition of the modern society needs good interpersonal relationships even more, classmate, colleague are honest with each other, avoid forming the too strong psychology of envying, should appraise others and oneself objectively, to own to have sure tolerance to people, don't ask for perfection, ask Da Tong to be deposited littly and differently.
Secondly confirm one accords with one's own goal, give full play to the self- advantage, do some one's own satisfactory things, so that equilibrium; Certainly, the person with very strong mood should look for psychologist's consultation in time to feel self-humiliation, try to get the doctor's help, free from oneself fundamentally.
Generally speaking, everybody has certain psychology to defend, or call guarding the psychology, this is normal. Ancestor say " heart that cause people can't have, prevent heart of people from have " This reason that that is to say. Certainly, in order to make oneself establish in an unassailable position in the fierce market competition, everybody is not only needing study and arms, but also the environment that is improving around constantly and interpersonal relationships constantly. But in actual life, we often see another kind of people, they distrust the person around from the start, in order to prevent one's own personal secrets, dignity and interests from being infringed, often adopt the means to excessively defend, thus wrapped up in oneself. In order to reach the psychology balanced, or adopt some improper tactics to slander others, thus achieve the goal of protecting oneself. This kind throw get others one's own discontent, until " whether I hate oneself " Shift " Others dislike me " ,Get to the end " Others really dislike me " ,This is psychology to defend an excessive intact course.
There is psychology that defends the excessive person, the great majority come from a kind of psychology of feeling self-humiliation, it is distrust of one kind, and then demonstrate the distrust of others, its basic reason or the understanding that it is enough to lack by oneself or mode of thinking has mistakes. Psychological research shows: The more every autognosis is close with one's own actual conditions, the fewer self- defence behaviors that he displays are, the stronger social adaptive capacity is, quite different on the contrary. One can know oneself, accept oneself, the relative psychology of feeling self-humiliation will be soon a little weaker.
Prevent the psychology from being defended excessively: Should treat one's own advantage and disadvantage, the correct relation of handling the successes and failures objectively at first; Confident to oneself, this kind of confidence has been already based on the fact that individual is struggling constantly, the help of winning among the comrade at the same time and relative, this is essential, the loner's method is absolutely impractical. The competition of the modern society needs good interpersonal relationships even more, classmate, colleague are honest with each other, avoid forming the too strong psychology of envying, should appraise others and oneself objectively, to own to have sure tolerance to people, don't ask for perfection, ask Da Tong to be deposited littly and differently.
Secondly confirm one accords with one's own goal, give full play to the self- advantage, do some one's own satisfactory things, so that equilibrium; Certainly, the person with very strong mood should look for psychologist's consultation in time to feel self-humiliation, try to get the doctor's help, free from oneself fundamentally.
